The Engagement Party


The engagement party officially kicks off the wedding festivities and starts the wedding-day countdown. I hate the fact that engagement parties are becoming a lost art, but they are fun to plan and of course to attend!

  1. Decide who's hosting.

Usually, the bride's parents host the couple's engagement party. However, like many etiquette rules, this one has changed over the years so anyone close to the couple is welcome to plan and pay for the engagement party.  It is fine to not have an engagement party at all, or to have two  - maybe one in the brides hometown and one in the groom’s hometown.

  1. Pick a date.

Engagement parties are usually held soon after the couple becomes engaged, while the news is still fresh. You might even decide to announce your engagement at the party! Now a days, the soon-to-be marrieds decide to share their happy news on social media soon after the proposal happens.  If you are going to do an engagement party – try to hold off! J

  1. Create the guest list.

Anyone invited to an engagement party must also be invited to the wedding, you can add additional people to the wedding guest list if you want. If you aren't sure of the size of your wedding just yet, it's better to limit the invites to those you are certain you will also invite to the wedding.


  1. Decide on a venue.

Think about the type of party atmosphere you want: If you like the idea of having everyone in the same room, you might want to rent out a private room at a local restaurant. For something more low-key, a family member's house, backyard, or clubhouse might be a better choice.  If you want to go a more formal route then you can always rent a ballroom or event venue.

  1. Register for gifts (or not).

Yes! Register for gifts, why not?  Some guests that attend the engagement party may not attend the wedding. Just when you register try to keep the price range low to medium then after the engagement party go back and register for the remainder of the items.

  1. Send the invitations.

Your invitations don’t have to match the wedding at all, neither does any of the décor that you may decide to use.  It is nice to be sure you have an RSVP card or phone number in there also so you know how many guests are attending and can plan accordingly.


  1. Plan the menu.

Remember this isn’t your wedding reception so keep it simple.   Anything from passed appetizers to a simple buffet or a casual cookout will work. You can also get creative and serve dishes with special meaning to you.

8.  Schedule

There is none.  Sometime during the night make sure that you and your groom to be announce your engagement, usually at the toast at the start of dinner and then enjoy your friends and family.  Welcome comments and suggestions on your wedding, but make sure that you don’t commit to anything to early.